4.01.2011

clearing things up

Hi everybody!

It's Sophia, the older tiger cub. I've decided to start a blog. Don't tell the Tiger Mom!!

Anyways. Although according to the ever-charming internet I'm already a freshman at Dartmouth, I'm actually an eighteen-year-old high school senior. And this morning, the internet told me I've "made up my mind" to attend Harvard next year.

To set the record straight, I applied to three schools last fall: Yale, Harvard, and University of Virginia. I was accepted to Yale under Early Action in December. I withdrew my application from UVA, and I was accepted to Harvard this Wednesday. I was shocked and thrilled to receive both acceptances, and I'm seriously considering both Yale and Harvard. Ashley's or J.P. Licks...Toad's or The T...tough call (although I am a huge fan of subways). I'll keep you posted.

In the meantime: if you're reading this, leave me a comment with questions, advice, or trolling. I can't wait.

xoxo tiger cub (not a Gossip Girl reference...I don't watch TV, remember?)

109 comments:

  1. What's your major in these two top Ivies? Congratulations first!

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  3. I Know... GO TO HARVARD :) You're the best!

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  4. hahaha, love it! Sophia is awesome!

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  5. I call shenanigans.

    This is an artifical troll blog.

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  6. Anyway, while I'm here I might as well ask the really important question.

    What on earth is going to happen to the global economy when Bernake ends QE II?

    So far, he's managed to make commodities spike (fueling the Crisis Era wars in the Middle East) and depressed all future financial returns. Which has really, really annoyed me.

    The only possible outcome I can see is QE III, which will continue to ramp all commodities, otherwise we crack (financially speaking).

    What do you guys think?

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  7. Congratulations Sophia! You seem very nice and smart, you should be very proud of yourself! You are my hero! I'm 14 years old, and it is my dream to go to Harvard, haha maybe someday I will see you there!

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  8. Hehe this was posted on april fool's day!
    But really congrats, you deserve it :D

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  9. Welcome to blogging. Glad you will be setting the record straight--I'm sure Dartmouth is disappointed though!

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  10. 祝贺你!百尺竿头,更进一步!

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  11. You're year of the monkey, not year of the tiger!

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  12. 恭喜恭喜, etc
    It's whimsical the way colleges send there letters (er, emails) on April Fools.

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  13. 恭喜,可贺,难得,值得! 终于让你妈妈爸爸的努力没白费.从此得靠自子了, 像你妈妈那样坚强不倒.

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  14. You took my spot at Harvard. I have nothing else to say.

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  15. You are much hotter than I imagined you would be.

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  16. are those claw marks on your door?

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  17. I understand your frustration with the fact that everyone is just assuming you're choosing Harvard.

    I also was accepted by each college about five years ago, and it was tiring trying to explain to everyone that the decision is a far more nuanced one than most people appreciate.

    I ultimately ended up choosing Yale, and that was one of the best decisions I've ever made. Best of luck as you navigate this...and enjoy Bulldog Days.

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  18. hahaha sarcasm at its finest!! Love it.

    Hey Sophia! dude.... You know, recently 3 of my friends came over here at my house, spent the night here in my place, and instead of just watching a movie, we spent the entire night reading ur mom's book. The book was the theme of our so-called "sleepover"! We all have heard of it but none of us have read it since we're all busy with school, and so, we decided to read the book together. The 4 of us snuggled in my bed, hung out in the kitchen & in the terrace as we take turns in reading each chapter out loud. For the 4 of us, reading the book was as if we were the characters in there!! We would pause every once in a while, laugh hard and be giddy in sharing our respective childhood memories amongst each other! hahaha My friend even fell off the bed, bumped her head at edge of the table & broke my lamp! Seriously, it was THAT fun.

    That night was so long, we didn't even have any booze & stuff, yet its amazing how we were only reading a book but we were having sooo much fun at the same time, lots of food, & we were laughing our brains out throughtout the night because how much we could relate to almost all of the situations there in the book, in short, we totally get everything. Especially those lines & events that some people might have found it 'harsh', or 'extreme', or 'strict'..BLAAHH!! Ok well maybe WE--the 3 of my friends, You & Lulu, had a strict upbringing growing up, but we all led a normal life, Right? Which is something a lot of the readers of the book couldn't get! ohh well. And let's just thank our parents for giving us those fragments of childhood memories because ours were unique & different from the 'other' normal kids. As me & my friends would call it,'Extraordinary' childhood memories, that only extraordinary parents are the ones capable of giving it to their kids! haha

    Anyway, Sophia, I'm only sharing this because we had such an amazing blast that all started with the book, accompanied by our own stories. Just the 4 of us girls and the book, thus it was definitely 'One.of.the.BEST.nights.EHHHH-VER!'. Cheers to Prof. Chua, to ur entire family and thanks for the book.

    By the way, Congratulations for getting in Harvard! :)

    Tip for College: Party Hard, Study Harder, Pray Hardest!
    College will be one of the best years of your life. Just balance out everything! Again... Party Hard, Study Harder, Pray Hardest! (You will see some who might interchange the Party & Study part! hahaha)


    Kris.

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  19. Hi Sophie,

    First and foremost, congratulations. I just read that you performed at Carnegie hall at 14. Incredible! No wonder Harvard and Yale want you.

    Is it possible for you to give your SAT, SAT II and any other test scores? What did you write about in your personal essay in Harvard and Yale?

    Best of luck where ever you go and whatever you do. You kind of vindicated your tiger blood ;-)

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  20. Hi Sophia. Wow, is this really you? Or is this an April Fools' Day prank?

    Anyway, this is David Lat, founder of Above the Law, and author of the post reporting that you'll be attending Harvard. Congratulations on getting into both Harvard and Yale! (And apologies for any inaccurate reporting.)

    Personally I'm hoping that you go to Harvard - and not just because it would make my reporting accurate, and because I'd love to have you as a fellow alum. Here are a few reasons for picking Harvard over Yale:

    1. I've spent time in both Cambridge / Boston and New Haven, and I think the former is a much more fun place to spend your college years.

    2. For your undergraduate experience, it's probably best to move away from home and have some distance between you and your family. You have an awesome family, of course; but during a key period of identity formation, you might want some breathing room.

    3. You already know New Haven so well, having grown up there. You might benefit from a change of scenery. (And Cambridge and Boston have better shopping.)

    4. You already know Yale so well, having studied music there, and having two parents who are Yale professors. You'd benefit from exposure to another great academic institution by going to Harvard - and you'd gain access to a whole new network.

    (This is one reason why I decided to go to Yale for law school, instead of staying at Harvard - and I'm glad I did, because access to both the Harvard and Yale networks has been amazing. Think of this as a way of diversifying your human capital, just as you'd diversify an investment portfolio.)

    In any event, congratulations once again on your acceptances! Best of luck in your decisionmaking process. If there's anything I can do to be of assistance, please don't hesitate to email me: dlat at abovethelaw dot com.

    Best,
    David

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  21. harvard, because you'll be living in cambridge. great town, and boston is brilliant as well.

    enjoy and good luck

    (my dad never let me stay over either)

    k

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  22. I have some advice: Write another post! It's not a blog if you write something one time and don't update!

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  23. Has anyone considered the fact that she'd attend Yale for free but would have to pay lots of $ for Harvard? It makes a huge difference, doesn't it?

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  24. Lat's an insecure fruitcake.

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  25. @1:49 PM:

    1. Even if Sophia goes to Harvard, Yale will still help pay for her education. Her parents are Yale professors, and tuition assistance is a benefit extended to Yale faculty no matter where their kids go:

    http://www.dailypennsylvanian.com/article/benefits-penn-faculty-comparable-those-peer-schools

    http://www.thecrimson.com/article/2006/4/24/few-perks-for-faculty-with-kids/

    2. Considering how wealthy her parents are - both law professors at Yale, with endowed chairs, and both bestselling authors - Sophia shouldn't let finances control this decision. She should make the choice that's best for her education and personal growth, not her parents' (bulging) pocketbooks.

    @2:41 PM:

    Yes.

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  26. I completely disagree that Harvard is more fun during college. Maybe it's being so close to Boston or not having residential colleges in the first year, but there's less sense of community at Harvard than at Yale. Ironically, being surrounded by a ghetto and having nowhere to go forces people to come together. I'd still say go to Harvard overall because of the slight bump in prestige and to get some distance from your parents, but don't fool yourself that the college experience is better than at Yale.

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  27. Hello Sophia! You've handled the attention your family has received with admirable grace. What will your blog be about?

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  28. I think they are both excellent institutions, so I would pick the school where I felt best...That being said, I think Cambridge > New Haven...and Cambridge is full of young people from a number of college and universities...I think Cambridge would provide a more diverse experience in terms of the opportunity to meet people from so many schools. I loved my time at Harvard...more than any other school I've attended!

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  29. For undergrad, choose Yale. Easily.

    Far better/warmer community, more committed alumni, residential colleges, better facilities.

    For what it's worth, you won't come close to utilizing even 1% of the resources available to you at either school, so choose the school where you feel more "at home".

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  30. I would attend both Bulldog Days and the Harvard visiting program...you'll notice a huge contrast, and the choice to make should become very clear.

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  31. I think you should go to Yale. Harvard is a ZOO. College is for working. You do not want to many distractions.

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  32. big congrats! keep us posted :)

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  33. Do you have a boyfriend?

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  34. PS if you were a real Tiger, then you would have applied to Princeton : p

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  35. I hear Poundtown U is accepting apps for early action.

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  36. Hi, congratulations! I'm also the daughter of a pretty fierce Chinese mother, not to mention dealing with a live-in traditional Chinese grandmother. I'm also currently trying to decide between Harvard and Yale, but it feels bittersweet, because even though I'm ultimately making the decision, it feels like I'm doing it for them, and not myself. Ultimately, I'd probably choose to go to one of those anyway,but still. Do you ever feel that way?

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  37. Hi there. I have always admired women who are smart & manages to look good at the same time, and your mom is most definitely one of those. She's a perfect example of Beauty & Brains. Look, I don't know how old Tiger mom is, but she's kinda hot... She's most likely in her 40's right? And u know how a lot of the women in that age bracket ESPECIALLY TODAY where botox almost seemed like a necessity, especially in the west coast. Its not like I'm against plastic surgeries, I mean who knows when I get a little older I might also have 1 or 2 of those 'beauty-enhancing' surgeries. hehe Anyway, your mom just looks all natural, no surgeries of any kind, and she still manages to stay effortlessly beautiful & fit! (And she has a profession that requires her to constantly use her brains, which always makes a woman sexy!)

    Yo I know my comment is totally out of this world! haha but I just feel like I wanna give a shout out to your mom! Waassuupp tiger mom!

    -All the way from Chicago, Illinois.

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  38. Yo, what do you think about all the press regarding Yale and sexual harassment, e.g. "we love yale sluts" and the like? Has that factored into the decision? Being in New Haven already, have you seen any of that behavior or are the news reports overblown?

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  39. Harvard--more bookstores, cafes, Boston, more opportunity to meet diverse, interesting people. You can always transfer to Grinnell if you don't like it.

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  40. Should we congratulating you for getting into either of these schools? Your parents are double legacies at one and professors at the other. If you choose either institution, nothing you do for the rest of your life will be your own accomplishment. You will skate by in life, forever the child who could not fail, because nothing she ever did was attributable to herself.

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  41. Write a book with a ghostwriter and you will make a fortune by doing little work.

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  42. Don't you want to be able to play tennis with your dad on the weekends at those beautiful new tennis courts??

    And Toads is no comparison to whatever the T is but whenever I go up to the Harvard/Yale game in Boston I know it is no comparison for fun to Yale. Yale is way better.

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  43. what are you majoring in?

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  44. Spank bank now flush with cash. Thank you!

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  45. Deep down inside of you I definitely think there is a B-A-D girl just waiting to claw her way out. You're in the public eye at the moment-- now is your chance. See, LiLo, Paris, Miley, Chaz Sheen. You could present at the MTV VMAs, after-party with Diddy (or whatever his name is now), etc. You could be famous for being famous. Think about it. So...if you can juggle studies at H/Y while still being scandalous, then go for it. But keep your priorities straight--academically talented women are chronically underappreciated. Trust me.
    A DUI or a Maxim shoot could take you a long way. Plus you are half-Jewish. Hollywood will LOVE you. See, Sean Penn, Natalie Portman. Don't drift off into obscurity and a workaday job. Be Lady Gaga.

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  46. Too bad about UVa. Had a lot of fun there. Def would have a provided a much different perspective environment wise than Yale or Harvard.

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  47. From this point on, you may well be reaching for the other side of your true self, e.g. Yale vs Harvard, through interacting with outside world, with diminishing family influence. Along the way, a more sophisticated self-identity will gradually be cultivated and established, and hopefully it is more than a reminiscence of the Tiger Blood ;-) BTW, Are you really identifying with the flag of that China, whereas not even a genuine Tiger Mom could ever have her way?

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  48. Word to your mother!

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  49. Hi, Sophia,

    I could watch TV in Chinese parenting, for English learning and to understand American Culture XDXD

    :PP

    Yuyu

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  50. Come to Brazil and be happy!

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  51. New tiger in POUND-TOWN!

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  52. People underestimate Yale...I think you should pick it

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  53. How many languages do you speak?
    Which school did you went to?

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  54. I'm jealous... which is the best compliment of all.

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  55. nice to see you on this blog! and congratulations on the acceptances.

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  56. Hello Sophia, I wish you happy studying at Yale or Harvard. Does mom expect you to attend both? Better check with her first! ;) I have to buy her book with my B&N giftcard. I expect to be hugely entertained. x

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  57. Congratulations on the blog! I love your mother and think you're pretty awesome, too.

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  58. Tiger Cub:

    I just read the brief article about you on Yahoo. I identify with your mothers rules, because, those are the rules my mother had, for my sister and I.

    She enforced them differently than your mother though, at least I hope your mom isn't like my mother was. She wasn't a "use your words" kind of woman. If you get my meaning.

    Just a brief warning:
    Living life in a tight cage, is hard, and then you go to college, where there isn't a cage. Your mom hopes that all she's instilled in you will keep you on the path to get you through it. The truth is, that's up to you.

    I imagine you have a little life, not a jab, believe me I completely get your life style, but once your on your own, your little life seems so dull, and you crave the bigger life.

    Remember that IV League schools, hell, any college, is important, try not to get to wrapped up in LIFE.

    It will continue when you make the big bucks. And be more enjoyable

    Trust me, I know the life, and I know how much it sucked to lose it all. To be a student at a big fancy school, to get to wrapped up in the "Life" of it, and to be asked to leave.

    However, not all is lost, don't cry over me, I found happiness else where.

    And, have worked my way back up to an acceptable lifestyle for a young woman.

    26 years old, corporate america working, divorced mother of the cutest 4 year old in the world.. own my house, pay my bills. Not the big life that was planned for me, but, happy with what I got.

    I write a blog here too:
    http://katerivonstealsnewlife.blogspot.com/

    I'll read yours if you read mine!
    *smiles*

    You seem well rounded to me, with a good sense of humor.
    Stay strong tiger cub.

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  59. Dear tiger cub,
    moms like tiger mom are a must especially in the US, where kids are stereotyped as wild child druggies. Well that's what I usually hear or read from the media and btw I'm not a US citizen. You have to thank your mom for her efforts that have made you into who you are right now, such a well-rounded person. Your mom might be strict when it comes to rules but she too has a heart made of cotton. Good luck! I know you're gonna go far because of your upbringing.

    PS just wondering cause you said you don't watch TV, but how did you know that xoxo is associated with gossip girl? :))

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  60. I dont understand why your mother got so much grief! It seems we have forgotten the essentials of a true family upbringing. I give Koodos to your mom for trying and going above and beyond. Most people are ok with thier kids sitting all day playing games and goofing off. I for one might is well be considered a tiger as well as I feel that a strict schedule and major education is more important than sitting around trying the new playstation or WII.

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  61. wow. congrats. and just as a side note...we dont watch TV either. :) funny though cuz people think its so AMAZING and unimaginable. Honestly, I love that I dont.

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  62. Read an article about your blog. Decided to stop by. You asked, what did we expect? I can tell you, I didn't expect a likeable - well adjusted - grounded - charming - easy going young woman with a writing style that was easy to read, and interesting. You are correct about the osmosis. You will be doing us all a favor if you continue to cultivate your talent as far as you can go with it. Attitude has so much to do with life. I enjoyed your mothers attitude at the restaurant (sans the accent, some people are sensitive) my first jobs were in that business. Last - be carefull - the higher you go the more they want to throw rocks at you - as they say in the ring - PROTECT YOURSELF AT ALL TIMES.

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  63. Sophia, you sound like a sweet, wonderful girl. Have fun in college wherever you go. Your mom raised a great kid. I'm looking forward to hearing about your college experience, and your ever-promising future!

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  64. Why didn't you apply to Princeton? When I was a senior there, your dad lived in my entry way in Lockhart. He was a freshman and very serious.

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  65. Well, honey, here is just a little of my advice. I think it's good for kids to go away to college and live on campus. It gives you some space to breathe and be yourself. But I know that's not for everyone. Also, your mom is the only lady I know who orders more Chinese food than I do! Actually my new favorite is the Chinese buffet, there's one near me that is so good if your mom went there I would tell her to bring a whole pocketbook full of Tupperware!

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  66. I am a mom and am so thankful to see someone love their children so much as to not let the world raise them...Compare you, who appears well adjusted and "normal" to the other side...I will take your mom's way!

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  67. as a father of 6 and 50% success rate i have to say good for you and your mom to bad more parents dont have the same mind set as she did maybe we would have less problems. the fact you have both harvard AND yale looking to enroll you shows that yea your mom may have been tough but at one point or another you got it and took off with it. my deepest congradulations to you for your success im sure youll go a long way and to your mom for having the kutzpa for making sure you stayed on track

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  68. Love the blog! As a fellow subway/transit enthusiast who suffered living in Boston car-free for 10+ years and rode the Green Line everyday, I will say the T is not the _best_ transit system to rely on.. but at least if you use it for a few years, and move on, you will know where to start..

    I live in Montreal now, car-free, and the transit system here is far superior to Boston's system.

    Enjoy!

    -- Stefan in Montreal

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  69. Any tips on how to deal with a strict parenting life of a tiger mother? (My mother, South Korean native who moved to the US when she was 34) I'm currently studying violin, and more or less expected to get perfect grades. How do you distinguish between what you want and what's being expected of you?

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  70. LOLS. gratz! :D I see that some people have really taken to trollin'... literally. :c But that's awesome! And you've got a great sense of humor, haha XDDDD

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  71. Umm. Go to Harvard. Didn't George W Bush go to Yale? Shows Yale isn't very discriminating, doesn't it?

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  72. Already laughing and looking forward to reading your blog. You're going to win the 'most read senior blog' award. : )

    truthordairy.blogspot.com

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  73. Do you actually know Chinese?
    Anyways, your blog is really funny, specially "mocking of your mom", bring really cozy memories when mom do what you so fear of what they do and they do it in public, and this happens to any culture.
    I do have to mention that what made you a "successful" young lady was not the tiger in your mom but the love in her. And what will make you a successful human being is the love of God.

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  74. You rock girl! I'm Just saying.

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  75. I understand why upwardly mobile Asians insist their kids play violin and piano. Those are the most prestigious instruments, the ones that get featured in concertos. They're the safe choice.

    But your mom has never had to be upwardly mobile because by the time she was a professor at Duke, she was a full member of the American upper-class. She could afford to take chances and suggest instruments like saxaphone or lyre (yeah yeah, something Chinese!). In fact, having her kids play an obscure or gender inappropriate instrument would've increased her cultural capital.

    If the point of music lessons was to instill discipline, then the instrument itself is irrelevant, right? Or did she insist on piano and violin because that's where the competition is most ferocious?

    I'm also surprised that she didn't emphasize sports. The reason why some Asian immigrants don't want their kids to devote much time to sports is because in nations like China and Korea, sports usually won't help a student get into a good college. But your mom, American raised, knows better. She knows that in the US, the Renaissance man/woman is ideal, not the specialist preferred in Asia. Most American raised Asians know that too, which is why so many of them not just encourage their kids to play sports, they insist on it.

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  76. Congrats! Go to Harvard. When you stand on the highest mountain, all other mountains become smaller.

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  77. Hi, Sophia,

    I'm glad you started a blog to help set the record straight. I read your mom's book and loved it. I am Chinese and completely understood what your mother was trying to do. I also saw the humor in her accounts of raising you and your sister.

    I never believed in the modern western philosophy of self-esteem at the price of excellence. You know how I got my self-esteem when I was a student? By getting straight A's. Like you, I don't consider myself deprived or lacking in balance in my life.

    I'm looking forward to reading your blog regularly.

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  78. hi Sophia--
    I appreciate that u love your parents, but your mother did boil the pot a bit. 1 question: what about the things the book leaves out? did u have nannies as a kid? why does your mother leave out her Philippine experience? why is getting into an Ivy the badge of honor? and where is Dad in all this? did he agree with your mother's methods?
    finally, isn't it really kool to be both Jewish and Chinese?

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  79. You need to put UVA back on the list!

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  80. Harvard, get out of New Haven. What does dad say?

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  81. Why did you withdraw your app from UVA?! Charlottesville is AMAZING, not to mention once you experience winters in the South you will NOT want to move back North ;)

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  82. I agree with Meredith - UVA is an incredible school and Charlottesville is gorgeous! Wish you had kept your application there.

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  83. Has your mom considered translating her book into Chinese? I bet it'll be a best seller in Asia! Her method of parenting is quite a norm in Asia. Accepting to both Harvard and Yale is such a great accomplishment, but then again, can you honestly say that you would be where you are without your mom pushing you so hard? It's all worth it! Congrats.

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  84. Continue To express your self and be the person you were created to be,be the best that you can, for only you can be you and only you are best qualify to be you. There will never be another you and so enjoy life.
    Be encouraged.

    Randy.

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  85. hi sophia-
    i haven't had the chance to read your mom's book yet, but it's on my list. i did, however, just read the excerpt that was posted in the WST and i'm trying to figure out what the big deal is and why people are so upset! clearly everything she has done has been a benefit to you because you seem (from your blog) like a very intelligent, well-adjusted young woman with a great sense of humor. why is that a bad thing?

    although i did not have a tiger mom and am not asian, i did have parents that were, at times, very strict and overbearing - and although, at times, i hated them for it, i know that it has made me the person i am today - and i am glad for that. looking back, there are times that i wished they HAD pushed me harder in some things. i, too, played the violin - and whereas they did insist i practice, they didn't insist to the extent your mom seemed to have done. and now, as an adult, i wish they had. i haven't really played in a long time. my skills are very rusty and i know i never really reached my full potential as a musician. i've thought about going back for lessons, but now things are so busy, it's hard to find the time. that's just the tip of the iceberg. because they did push me in certain areas, i learned the value seeing something through to the end and the sense of accomplishment when you get there.

    as a high school teacher, i have so many lazy, over-indulged, disrespectful students that, sometimes, it makes me fearful for the future. they just expect things to be handed to them, as if they're entitled to it when they're not. what are we going to do with a generation (or more) of people who have no clue that good things don't just fall out of the sky - you have to work hard for them. i guess that they'll all be living at home when they're 40 because they can't hold down a job or even find a job because they dropped out of college or graduated at the bottom of their class and can't compete. you, on the other hand, will not have that problem because your mother (and father, i'm sure) made sure to instill in you the ethics and attitudes you will need to succeed. and it is clear that you WILL be successful and NOT living home at age 40 mooching off your parents.

    keep doing what you're doing. you seem to be handling all of this with grace and humor because you were obviously raised well!

    PS - Boston is a great city...

    PPS - sleepovers really aren't all that great. i actually really didn't like them as a kid. so, in my opinion, you really didn't miss much. ;)

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  86. Hi Sophia,

    I have a simple question for you. When you become a mom, would you use the parenting technique your mom used on you and your sister on your children and why?

    Thanks!

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  87. Wow you made a blog!! I want to read~ Get the story straight from the source. How has it been since your life is in the spotlight now?

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  88. Hi Sophia,

    I am enjoying your blog tiger cub. You have a delightful sense of humor. Congrats on your accomplishments and I love your ll0% feeling.

    For the record, I am a retired secondary mathematics teacher, dressage coach and trainer, mother of two, grandmother of four and greatgrandmother of one.

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  89. I grew up with a Tiger Dad, and I didn't know how to socialize until college. I was ready to agree with others when they said that you and your sis must not know how to interact with people. Now you changed my mind. I'm happy to see that your blog and you are funny and articulate! I like your mom's book, and I'll use some of her methods on my 3-yr old daughter. I think up 'til now, I gave her too much freedom. Tiger Mom helps me realize it is ok to raise my child with the "Chinese Method". But I don't think I have the energy to be as Tiger Mom as she; I'd just pick and choose what I want to impose.

    I have a question for you, "Looking back now, do you feel you were oppressed in some way? Do you wish your mom was a bit more lenient?" Thanks for the blog and I'll keep reading.

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  90. I grew up in the same type of household. A's only anything else unacceptable which I totally agree with and plan on raising my kids that way. I'm not so much interested in the social aspect of how you were raised as you say you did go to school and got it that way. I am more curious about the lack of sports/physical activity being apart of growing up in the story? That gym and drama were classes that she did not care about? Also that your sister had to push to play tennis. Was there a reason that sports of some kind were not important. If I am wrong I apologize.

    My Dad was a two sport athlete in college and sports was something I was gonna do whether I liked it or not as well. I felt playing sports was important and man a car ride home after practice with my Dad was the worst going over every little thing I did wrong and need to improve. But really I am curious as to you and your Mother's thoughts on playing sports?

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  91. From what I've heard of your mother, I would have thought she would make you attend both Harvard AND Yale -- at the same time. :)

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  92. Hey Sophia! Seems like pretty much all the other comments have covered the compliments, so I just want to say congratulations, good luck on your decision, and you are my role model! (well. you and Lulu, and your mother) :)can't wait to hear more
    -from Delaware

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  93. Glad you're speaking your mind, but please stop with the "anyways"! It is "anyway" no "s"! My PhD brother does that and it makes me nuts. It makes both of you look...less than articulate and intelligent. Stop it!

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  94. Hi there :)
    I hope the question I have has not already been discussed. You're so popular, I would never make it through all the comments to find out.
    Anyways, (heehee)do you think there is a chance that genetics play a part in how children respond to parenting styles?
    Love your blog :)
    Angela

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  95. You are really funny! Best wishes wherever you go.

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  96. Join us at Harvard!

    Harvard! Harvard!

    Harvard!

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  97. When your mom's book was released and the backlash in articles and as a response from an interview began popping up, I made a note to buy and read the book. I just finished reading it and I wish the persons who harshly criticized your mom would too. I think I cringed sometimes because of the clash between your sister and mom was similar to that of my mom and me, but I could not imagine being that tough on my own kids and THAT I think is what put so many people on edge. It is obvious you are not scarred. I bet it wasn't always easy being her daughter. You are truly an intelligent, funny, and confident young lady because of your mom. Bravo to you for your accomplishments and for recognizing that you are a better you in part because of you and the other part because of your mother's pushing.

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  98. Hi Sophia!

    I am a sophomore at Harvard and actually used Battle Hymn as the prompt for a seminar paper on contemporary child-rearing! As much controversy and criticism as the book accumulated, it was fantastically written and a very engaging read. Even after repeatedly grappling with, supporting, and contesting the book along with a one of your mother's articles, I still was left with a "grey" stance on child-rearing. Either way, if you find yourself with a plethora time to burn, you'll probably be able to look the paper up in the Hist/Lit archives next year assuming that you've committed to coming here!

    On another note, I find it really fortunate that you posted this blog. You've definitely helped suspend the public inclination to presumptuously classify you as "another mindless, robot asian thing." Being the sociable, humorous, and intelligent person that you are, I'm sure you'll fit in wonderfully! Congratulations on all your accomplishments and I wish the best of luck in all your upcoming endeavors, as enterprising or humble as they might be!

    Welcome to the yard!

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  99. I think it's funny how people think you're a "robot, scarred for life," blah blah blah... Your mother has done a fantastic job raising you and Lulu and you can totally stand proud. Although.... I'm sometimes not totally sold that your mother is or was that brutal. I mean...is it really the "Chinese way" to start this blog? (lol). Anyways, just wanted to let you know that you guys are beautiful and good luck at Harvard. Don't forget to keep practicing piano. It's in your blood!

    From another Tiger Mother with two cubs

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  100. As a mom with a son who is also graduating highschool this year I suggest you go to Harvard- independence from mom and dad, plus Boston and Cambridge. It really doesn't get any better seriously.

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  101. What?! Harvard! Wow... I can only imagine how beautiful that place is...

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  102. omg i was at the science olympiad nationals this year too, i think my school(Walter Johnson) beat u :)
    http://soinc.org/sites/default/files/NSOTDivC2011Results.pdf

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