4.30.2011

Q&A: elves, dirt, and college decisions

To Len Mirto:
Dear Lenny, I can’t believe you found my blog!! Every one of your comments brightens my day. You’ve seen us through good times, crazy times, and everything in between. I’ve always been inspired by your optimism, humor, bravery, and kindness. Thank you so much, and the invitation to a Chinese dinner still stands!

How did you get your mom to allow you to date? What’s your boyfriend like? Is he Asian?
I think you misspelled, "how did you persuade your dad to get off the porch with his shotgun?" Dating wasn’t really under the tiger mom’s jurisdiction in our house...David is white, but he passed The Szechuan Dinner Test with flying colors. He is left-handed, hilarious, and does not go big game hunting on the African plains in his spare time. That’s all I’m saying for now :] (but if you're really curious, he tends to pop up on the tiger twitter)

Why did you delete my comment?
I’ve been called every name under the sun (favorites: "halfbreed bitch," "meek automaton," "famewhoring squint-eyed kike slut,"). If I feel like reading insults and slander about me and my family, I’ll google it. That said, I’m totally interested in your respectful thoughts and criticisms. So by all means, keep being honest – just leave the racial/sexist slurs out of it.

Do you have a strange obsession?
Yes, actually. I have a bunch of cats that I shave every day, and I keep their hair trimmings in giant garbage bags in my room. Oh come on, I’m not that interesting! My obsessions are pretty mainstream. I’m big into Lord of the Rings...I have a pair of elf ears that I wear around sometimes...

Will you raise your children the same way? What will you change in your parenting style?
I’m dreading having kids. I can already hear my teenaged children saying, "There you go again, trying to be your mother. Seriously, go find a therapist."
There are definitely aspects of my upbringing that I'd like to replicate. I’m never going to be a professional pianist, but the piano has given me confidence that totally shapes my life. I feel that if I work hard enough, I can do anything. I know I can focus on a given task for hours at a time. And on horrible days when I’m lost and a mess, I can say to myself, "I’m good at something that I really, really love." I want my kids to have that confidence – confidence rooted in something concrete, not just "aww everyone’s a winner!!!" confidence, because in your heart you never believe that.
What would I do differently? Well, I agree that nothing’s fun until you’re good at it. Just because your 10-year-old doesn’t love running sprints isn’t an excuse to let him quit the team. (You think the other kids love running sprints? Nobody likes running sprints.) But fast-forward a couple years. If he gives it 110%, he’s state champion, and it still doesn’t bring him happiness. . .it’s time to stop. Ultimately, you need to love what you do.

What is your stance/opinion on LGBT issues?
My opinion really couldn’t matter any less, but to me it’s simple. Politically? It’s a free country. Religiously? I look at Michelangelo’s Pieta; I read Vergil's Aeneid...if there’s a god, there’s no way he wasn’t on their side. I don't know, that’s just the way I see it.

How are you spending your time as a second semester senior?
Believe it or not, I’m kind of the school tree-hugger. My friend Claire and I started a club called GOAT (Greenhouse Off-campus and Agriculture Team) in 2009, where we help the local Land Trust by renovating community gardens around New Haven. It’s rewarding work. I see a whole new side of my hometown, and I get to play in the dirt a lot. Second semester has been great because I’ve gotten out to the gardens a lot more often.

Have you decided where you’re going next year?
Somewhere wicked awesome.

Coming soon: as requested in the comments, a longer post about private school education. Also seeing lots of questions about my favorite things...might do a post on that too. Any favorites you want to know about? Or recommendations?

108 comments:

  1. Elf. Ears.

    Is it too early to declare my love for you?

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  2. So how would Tiger Mom feel about you backpacking the Lord of the Rings trail between now and college?

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  3. good for you for making a difference in your neighborhood! im sure it'll be so rewarding in the end :)

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  4. Harvard? See ya at The Game next year girl!

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  5. Are you ever gonna tell us?! Also, what is rent-a-senior day?

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  6. You are seriously great, good luck at Harvard <3

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  7. Another question: How do you feel about corporal punishment? I had a "tiger mom," but your mother sounds pretty nice compared to her.

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  8. Well, Lord of the Rings is possibly the best piece of Fantasy work (movie or book form) I've ever come across. Elves are awesome.
    Also, keeping things from the public's never such a bad thing. I honestly wish more people did keep their life aspects private.
    Have a good time when your classes start up.

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  9. always enjoy reading your posts!

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  10. You are SO amazing it's not even funny.

    Oh, and I won my first competition playing Butterfly, so when I read the first part of the book I definitely freaked out a little bit.

    Aka jumping around and trying to show my mom.

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  11. "I want my kids to have that confidence – confidence rooted in something concrete, not just "aww everyone’s a winner!!!" confidence, because in your heart you never believe that."

    Exactly. Asian parenting is full of demands and high standards (your mom is a kitten compared to my dad), but that's only because Asian parents understand that everyone is NOT a winner. They are dedicated to making their child the winner through hard work and perseverance. At times, my parents can be unimaginably strict and possess impossible expectations. But overall, I love my Asian parents because of the strength and work ethic they've instilled in me.

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  12. Bahahahahh you're awesome!
    I love your humour - it makes me want to read whatever you have to say/write. (Personally not the type to pay attention to people just because they're famous/semi-famous.. but you're actually cool) :D
    And now three questions (posed right after you've done your Q&A post because timing is totally my strong suit)...
    Random: what is your favourite food?
    Random no. 2: do you have any sort of interest in the Royal Wedding?
    Semi-for-my-benefit: would you consider a gap year/high school exchange between finishing high school and starting uni? Why/why not, and if yes, where would you go? As a 17-year-old Asian chick in NZ considering an exchange next year, I'm interested in your tigrish(?) opinion :)

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  13. Good luck in college!

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  14. How do you manage to stay focused for hours at a time?

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  15. Where is your boyfriend going to college?

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  16. you mentioned you liked asian pop in another post, can you do a fangirl post on that? :)

    love your blog by the way :)

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  17. Haha, okay so I'm wondering if you watch Asian dramas?

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  18. Hello Sophia,

    I'm the guy that posted on your mother's facebook wall a few weeks ago (Daniel Abram). I'm glad you started a blog. But I feel after the huge backlash your mother got, you're family feels like it has to portray itself as the "I'm a spoiled lazy American just like you" because people do not understand a different lifestyle. I don't know any more what your family's real personas are, but if they are still the driven, hardworking tigers I came to admire, I only hope you do not listen to the masses and do what you are most passionate about.

    Daniel

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  19. Wow.

    Above comment is a little freaky.
    In that weird stalker way...
    I don't know, it's just how I read it...

    Had a Hannibal Lecter feel to it.


    Your Q & A's are cute!

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  20. I thoroughly enjoy your blog. I come from a town with a high population of tiger parents who seem to produce tiger robot children, and it's really nice to see that you actually have a personality. =) If/when you let us know what your college decision is, will you also let us know why you picked the school you picked? (I chose H, so I'm kind of wondering if we'll be in the same place next year.)

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  21. I'd like to hear about your favorite books.

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  22. Cambridge, MA...our fair city. Congrats! Sorry, I think of Cartalk when I think Boston. Those guys are wicked awesome. :) I always wanted to go to Yale as a kid, but ended up at Indiana for music. BTW, your take on the gay issue was succinct and beautiful. Loved it.

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  23. I'd like to know your favorite piano piece to play :)

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  24. Hi, Sophia.

    I just wanted to say I enjoy reading your blogs!

    I haven't written much but Check mine out:)

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  25. more q&as please! :)
    what's ur favorite subject in school
    and whats ur favorite book?

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  26. What else do you read for fun?

    So your mom's native dialect is Hokkienese, but she made you two learn Mandarin? Do you also speak Hokkienese?

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  27. favorite music genre
    favorite clothing store or brand
    favorite makeup brand
    favorite aspect about yourself
    favorite place to visit

    What would you like to be in your afterlife (assuming there is one)?

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  28. tell us about places you've been and would like to go and your favorite books/food/tv shows!

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  29. wait so where are you going to college.?

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  30. In the information age, I would think it hard to keep private life private. Not that we don't enjoy the pictures and the writings that you posted, but don't you have this concern when you write and post them on the internet? Or where do you draw the line? I faintly remember your dad wrote something long ago about privacy, constitutional rights, etc. I could be wrong. Yes, what's your parents' stand on this since you are still a teenager under their roof?

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  31. Are Samoyeds hard to train?

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  32. Can you post a video of you playing piano?

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  33. As a corollary to what momwrite said, I did laugh to myself when I heard that your dad is an expert on privacy law. I'm not saying you should stop blogging or anything, but it's funny that he said in interviews that he doesn't believe people should share too much of their personal lives, and then his wife wrote a memoir :) But you, your mom, and your dad are different people and are free to have differing opinions, so whatever.

    Also, do you really believe that nothing is fun until you're good at it? I totally agree with what you said about being comforted by knowing there's something you both love and excel at, and that we're actually not all winners, but as long as I have my areas of expertise I can find joy in making a fool of myself at a new sport or trying something new just for the adventure of it. I'm probably (hopefully) extrapolating you and your mother's thoughts too far, but I hope for your sake that there are things you enjoy doing without having devoted thousands of hours to mastering them :)

    Favorite trip you've taken? You've been so many places, I'm crazy jealous.

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  34. just read your previous post (and this post too)
    so...do you listen to kpop and chinese music? khalil fong? (he's awesome!)

    might see you around? maybe? I'm going to college in boston!

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  35. While I think it's great that you're creating this blog and sharing your voice with the world and showing that you are, by no means, a robot, I do think you should stop defining yourself based off of your mom and her memoir. Most of what I see you write both here and on your Twitter has some kind of reference back to 'tiger'. I do understand that part of this is light-hearted mockery of people that are taking this whole affair too literally and too seriously, but I think what would be even better would be to show the world who you are OUTSIDE of all this tiger business. Prove the critics wrong by showing that you have a personality and an identity outside of simply being the "daughter of the Tiger Mother"

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  36. Well, if you ever get into STAR TREK, the elf ears would work just as well as Vulcan ears.

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  37. loving the fact that you are a normal (-ish) person like the rest of us. yay for not being a mindless robot and instead being an amazing writer!

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  38. What are your favorite books to read? Both for fun and for inspiration/learning?

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  39. Hey! How do you juggle your time between studies & music? I don't seem to have enough time to do both. Oh, and maybe your next post can be Mandarin? I would love to read it.

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  40. Hi!

    Hooray for your blog. How do you have enough time to apply for Harvard and juggle the difficult academic studies there? Pretty impressive- will be keeping an eye on this blog.

    Cheers

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  41. I'm pretty curious, what's your relationship with your sister like? With two teenage girls and one tiger mother, is there any sort of competition or resentment going on?

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  42. Would love to read a post about your favorite books (in addition to LotR)!

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  43. I loved your answer on lgbt rights.. Bravo! :D

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  44. What are your favorite books?

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  45. Love your posts and your personal characters...you must be a person very nice and easy to talk with! The only thing i'm curious about is WHY UVA? I totally understand such a brillant girl like you would apply for Harvard and Yale, but why do you leave your last choice for UVA? what's the special factor that made you decide on this?
    Thanks a lot. Keep us posted~!

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  46. I'm a 32-year-old aspiring tiger mom and I love your blog and your mother's book! One (hopefully) quick question. I believe in a strong music education and my 6-year-old daughter takes piano lessons. She is moving quickly through her books and we practice a little over an hour a day. Sometimes it's rewarding and sometimes it's a struggle. Will it get better? Did you ever have moments as a child when you hated piano and felt that your mom was always the one pushing you to play?
    Thanks so much!

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  47. Thank you for the kind words. I love your sense of humor and often laugh out loud. If all else fails you could do stand up or do your own sit-com (starring your own family). I'm sure some people think that your family is always 100% high pressure but I can assure them that you folks enjoy a great relationship and constant banter. You certainly brighten up The Cullman-Heyman Tennis Center when you come in laughing and smiling. You have a wonderful personality, don't change a thing. DINNER anytime.

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  48. Hi Sophia-
    I first read about your mom's book in the paper and thought "ekkk is she for real" but then I recently just finished the book and really liked it. While I think your mom was over the top at times, I really wish my parents would have had some tiger mom in them and made me practice my violin harder, study more etc... While I'll never be a tiger mom I have taken some things away from the book and push my boys harder where appropriate. Your blog is lots of fun to read. You should write your own book some day!

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  49. Ok here's a quick serious question: While growing up did you ever feel your mother's discipline was unfair? Did it ever effect your relationship with her? Did anything about her style ever confuse you?

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  50. Great blog...would like to hear your reply to the question above, Sophia.

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  51. Also as a follow-up question - assuming you liked your mom's book?

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  52. I read some reviews from amazon.com of your mom's book and i noticed that some do not consider her real chinese by having parents raised in the Philippines. I want to know if your mom mingled with mandarin speaking chinese while growing up?

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  53. Hey sophia! I found your blog from one of my friend's blog and it was quite a coincidence because just the day before that I actually blogged about you!

    http://xelliose.blogspot.com/2011/04/okay-i-should-have-stopped.html

    lol. anyways, i think it's wonderful that you maintain a blog. Now people know that you're as real and as ordinary as everybody else out there.

    Keep up the good work!

    P.S. Hope you choose Harvard. Is there any other celebrity going there? do you think they'll allow me to request a celebrity roommate? lol

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  54. Just wanted to drop by and say: I LOVE YOUR EARRINGS!!!

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  55. For what it's worth, I don't think you're a "famewhoring squint-eyed kike slut". Your blog is a good read. Even without the circumstances surrounding the blog, I would read it (if I happen to chance upon it and all). So yeah.

    You're so young though! I hope you weren't affected negatively by those mindless trolls :/

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  56. Super enjoyed your mom's book, and finding your blog was an added bonus. Just one question: How is your aunt Katrin? I was left wondering how she was doing. Hopefully all is well. She is in our prayers!

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  57. Hi Sophia! I found your blog not actually having heard of your mum's book, but after reading your blog and some reviews of her book, I had to buy it! Let me just say first of all that even though I'm not a mother yet myself, I can see a lot of your mum's more important principles in your mum. Mine wasn't quite as strict, but the same principle applied - study hard and practice hard and the fun will follow as results. I love that you're speaking out and it shows the world that the tiger mum's out there are doing it for our own good and out of LOVE, no matter how anyone else perceives it. Good luck in college, and I can't wait to read more of your blog!

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  58. Sophia, can you please delete my prior comment. I apologize for it, if this is who you are I respect that. After looking at the other comments, mine seemed awfully harsh and that was not its purpose.

    Thanks and good luck,
    Daniel

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  59. Hiya Sophia,

    My name is Auralynn and I work for American Apparel's Fashion Media department. I'm looking all over for your e-mail, but can't find it. If possible, please e-mail me back - auralynn@americanapparel.net.

    Thanks!
    Auralynn Nguyen
    Fashion Media & Product Placement
    American Apparel, Inc.
    747 Warehouse St.
    Los Angeles, Calif. 90021
    auralynn@americanapparel.net
    (213) 488-0226 ext. 1367

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  60. I'm going to guess from the underlined word "wicked" in your post that you will be attending Harvard next year (I'm from Massachusetts. We do say that a lot, it's true). First of all, congrats! Second of all, if you are going to be at Harvard, perhaps our paths will cross, as I will be a freshman there as well. = )

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  61. WHY HARVARD OVER YALE? :)
    i would love to see your reasoning behind it since i had to make the same decision

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  62. Dear Sophia,

    I just have a few questions :)

    Do you have any superstitions?? Good luck charms? What do you believe brings you luck?

    What is your fav. Color? Food? Books?

    What does your room look like?

    How did you have time to practice piano for so long and manage to do well in school? How many hours of sleep did you get?

    What is your outlook on life? Motto? Favorite quote/ cliche?

    I hope you will answer my questions because I am just a 15 year old girl and you are my inspiration!

    Keep writing!

    Your biggest fan :D

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  63. Sophia,

    18th Birthday shoutout for me in your next blog? Please, and thank you. My birthday is tomorrow! :)

    Oh, by the way I love reading your blogs. It's awesome.

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  64. Have you seen "Race to Nowhere"? what is your take on the movie/issues it raises

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  65. Hi Sophia, I LOVE reading your blog and Twitter (haven't had the chance to read your mom's book yet). Are you still taking questions? If you are, could you talk about some activities that your family likes to do together? Like watching movies as I think you mentioned in your article. I guess it could be "favorite family activities" haha.

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  66. Do you read all these comments? That's a full time job! If you are reading your comments, all I have to say is You are a brilliant beautiful girl who has huge potential in the world and I wish you the best of luck in life.

    I hope you use your popularity to do some good in the world, like have a donation link to a charity on your blog. Just a suggestion, you do what you feel is right.

    Daniel

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  67. hey sophia!

    been lurking your blog for a while, but i just wanted to let you know that i so enjoy your writing and your down-to-earth-ness :) my father's a professor at yale as well and people keep asking me, "OMG DOES YOUR DAD KNOW AMY CHUA?!" =_=

    but then again, i suppose you know the feeling better than i do.

    anyway, just wanted to thank you for writing and keepin' it real. i finished reading your mom's book the other day and to my surprise, i was able to relate to it quite well (even though my upbringing was anything but 'chinese,' although i am taiwanese by blood), and i wish that others had taken the time to read the book in full before making rash judgments from the wsj excerpt alone.

    oh and one more thing! i wanna hear more about your interest in asian pop! level-headed fangirls are a rare find in asian pop fandom.

    -patricia

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  68. I have a question.
    You mention that you got a lot of self-confidence from learning piano, which is awesome, and you want to continue that when raising kids. It seems like your mom chose the piano for you, would you let your kids chose their own passion? For example, would you let them explore all their options with the expectation that they will have to pick something?

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  69. Hey Sophia,

    I love your blog!!! You should post more :) I have a few questions:

    What is your favorite subject in school?

    Do you have any videos of you playing the piano? (I would love to hear!)

    HOW did you manage to do so well in school and piano??

    What is your favorite food?

    What is your usual daily schedule like?

    Did you ever join any sports? What is your favorite sport?

    This question is kind of random but...

    Do you ever get allergies? (I have them really badly right now...sneezed about 20 times)

    I hope you answer my questions!

    Thanks! :D

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  70. Are you creeped out that we talk about you on the Harvard 2015 Facebook page? Because if I were you I would be. Though it is sorta cool at the same time.

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  71. Just finished Battle Hymn. Can't figure out why Amy emphasizes her own and daughter's Chinese-ness (more so than their Jewishness, or daughters' biracial identities). This emphasis seems superficial, at best. It almost seems done to attract attention (China Versus The West, it's on!), to make oneself seem more exotic (to be white is to be boring), or perhaps to escape the burdens of Whiteness (whitey evil, whitey evil).

    It's not like they live in a place like Bensonhurst, where those who are Chinese need to prioritize high their ethnic identity in order to survive in what was recently an Italian community. The Chua's live in a world that, while not free of racism, doesn't socially segregate Chinese people.

    Put simply, Amy Chua is Chinese merely by accident (and not in spirit), and the daughters are definitely not Chinese. They don't look Chinese, don't act Chinese, and I doubt they think as Chinese. I wouldn't be surprised if they go through life without ever dating an Asian, much less a Chinese (American).

    Being Chinese doesn't mean that all Chinese think, look, and act alike. Not does it mean imitating one's parents. Being Chinese means a deep awareness of how one's identity is shaped by narratives of China and its culture; about being personally responsible for shaping and disseminating narratives about Chinese-ness; about making difficult personal decisions that are also expressions of a political and social view. One can't just snap their fingers and call themselves Chinese because they have some Chinese blood and had a stereotypically Chinese upbringing.

    If they're truly Chinese and deeply care about Chinese culture, they would've, as many similarly educated Chinese Americans have done, move beyond the Chinese immigrant model of raising children. The piano and violin makes sense for many Chinese immigrants because those are the 2 most prestigious instruments. I can also understand why Chinese immigrants eschewed drama and sports. But for Chinese Americans who are comfortably part of the new American upper class,

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  72. Many Chinese American women refuse to accept the responsibility that comes with embracing an ethnic identity. They don't see, for instance, who they marry or date as an expression of their "political and social view."

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  73. ^ 23 'Chinese' =P couldn't help myself.

    Sophia and Lulu seem pretty Chinese to me. they seem equal parts of both parents.
    Amy Chua clarified that the 'Chinese' parenting method isn't actually just for Chinese. Something about how a white dad from South Dakota could be a Chinese mom. lol. it makes more sense in her book.

    also, does dating someone Chinese make you more Chinese?

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  74. Hey! I just heard about your blog. You are a fabulous writer (love the story of your mom at the Chinese restaurant!). I also love your boots. Also, I have a daughter named Sophia (plus three other daughters!).

    p.s. Your mom's book was great. I loved it. A bunch of mommy blogger friends and I have had a grand old time discussing it.

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  75. Hi Sophia,

    My friend has just referred me to your blog - and firstly can I just make a comment on how gorgeous your family is?
    I myself am a 17 year old Chinese girl living in the far off country of New Zealand.
    Of course I've read your Mum's ever so famous book, and I'm actually planning to do my formal writing piece on parenting for my upcoming English assessment.
    I really enjoyed the book - I read it in one sitting actually, anywho now I'm rambling a bit, just wanted to say that I really enjoyed reading your blog although it did make me think - Tiger Mom is not as strict as I thought she was? O:

    - yj

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  76. Hey, I was just wondering: why was Princeton not considered?

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  77. Some interesting insights about Chua's use of "Chinese" and her sense of Chineseness.

    Asian Americans who grew up in the 1980s experienced a very different world, a different identity crisis than Asian Americans coming of age now. Back then, if you looked "Oriental," you were marked as foreigner and inferior. Even in San Francisco. It's no wonder that upwardly mobile Asian Americans were faced with the sort of tough life decisions that few Asian American kids understand. On the one hand, they were faced with narratives of Asians as "too traditional," "too robotic," "inscrutable." There was tremendous pressure from American society to reject one's parents and one's race and for Asian women, Asian men. On the other hand, there were parental expectations to maintain Chinese (or Korean, etc.) culture, in blood and in spirit.

    For a lot of Asians who grew up in the 80s, marriage wasn't simply an act of love, even if that's how one thought of it. There was a lot more at stake.

    Anyway, the subnarrative of Battle Hymn is about how Chua's adolescent identity crisis influenced her parenting philosophy and style. I'd like to know more about Amy's relationship with her parents. Amy suggests she was an obedient child, but I wonder if there's always been quiet rebellion. Maybe then we can better understand Chua's zealous use of the trope of Chineseness.

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  78. Can you give us a play-by-play on what it was like playing at Carnegie Hall?

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  79. I just want to say that your mother's book was brilliantly inspiring, a true and honest testimony of her love to both you and your sister. She has a tremendous amount of courage to write such a book that details the rawest of emotions that are attributed to parenthood. She says what most people are afraid to confront themselves.

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  80. Can you show us the video of you playing at Carnegie Hall? :)

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  81. I have to say that the parenting style that your mother described in her memoir is more or less like my (Indian) parents' parenting style. Currently age 14 and looking back, I'm not complaining. I wouldn't be where I am today without their tough love and guidance, because they always pushed me to do my best and give it my all every day.

    Side note: Your mother's book was hilarious and emotional. And you seem normal. Not that I know what normal is... ;)

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  82. hi Sophia,
    could you write about your high school and how it has shaped your personality? that's something I would find very interesting

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  83. Hi Soph, you and your mum helped me pick a speech topic for my speech class. Thanks!
    Best of luck to you.
    My brother is going to MIT in the fall, so maybe our paths might cross. Hahah... (creep)

    Best of luck!

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  84. I can't tell who's Lulu and who's you in pictures that you upload... Also tell your sister to get a blog! I'd pay to see her blog.

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  85. Why did you not apply to Princeton, your dad's alma mater? Did it bother him when you didn't apply there?

    Also, why did you pick UVA? And why schools (HY) so close to home? Did you consider, say, Stanford or University of Chicago? How about schools like Pomona, Reed, Amherst.

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  86. Great blog. You are doing a great job sharing your voice and it's a very interested counter-weight to your mom's book.
    Best of luck to you, and your family, as you navigate the world of the famous and semi-famous.

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  87. Hello Sophia! What do you do to spend your time in the summer?

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  88. You made it to the Carnegie Hall. Could you talk about your piano learning journey and whom you learned piano from (if that is not too private)? Your mother only talked about Neighborhood Music School. Who subsequently did you learn from after NMS? Thank you.

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  89. Your blog is great!! Keep it up! We read your mom's book for a book club and we loved it. It's nice to see that your mom raised a smart, funny, independent, and beautiful young woman!

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  90. Do you think you could've gotten into Harvard and Yale if you weren't a legacy student? Besides the piano thing, what makes you stand out?

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  91. Do you think your mom has become less strict as you've grown older? How much indepence does she allow you?

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  92. Your mother's book inspired me to write a research paper on Tiger parenting for my English class.

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  93. Hi Sophia!
    Thanks for your great blog!
    I am a high school senior in Switzerland, and I'm going to start studying cello next year.
    My question is: Was it a difficult decision for you not to pursue a professional piano career? What made you decide against music as a profession? Do you plan to stay serious about piano nonetheless and keep taking lessons?
    Thanks a lot and good luck to you!

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  94. YOU'RE THE SCHOOL TREE-HUGGER! YOUR AWESOMENESS JUST GOT JACKED UP 200%!

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  95. Now you've done it -- you've scared the NYT: http://www.buzzfeed.com/daves4/the-new-york-times-makes-the-nerdiest-correction-e

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  96. Hi! I noticed in a previous post that you like Rain and Asian pop. As a fellow lover of Asian pop (mostly kpop these days though) I'm curious: what other Asian artists do you follow?

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  97. Hey Sophia,

    I have a question for you, based on your mother's book. Do you think that your (and your sisters) success can be contributed to your parents wealth, or income? If two parents chose to be 'tiger parents', do you think socioeconomic status has anything to do with the outcome, or success or the child? It seems like your parents spared to expense on school and activities for you. Of course hard work is the foundation, but isn't is true that less wealthy people can't afford the same things? Let me know what you think!!

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  98. Hi ! I'm Alexandra from France. My english is pretty bad and I'm a bit confused. Are you allowed to watch tv or not ?
    Thank you :)

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  99. Your excellent writing skills & equally great sense of humor will be real assets.
    I did not peel that out of a fortune cookie. The Tiger Mom & your dad have done extremely well. I look forward to your tweets/blogs, and your mom's.

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  100. What's your favorite kinda food?? And by the way, YOUR BLOG IS AWESOME, please, please, update more often, I click on this page all the time!!! =] Anyway, just wanna say I think you're really pretty and please continue posting...because you're funnyyyy

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  101. Hi Sophia! I absolutely love your blog, you seem like such an interesting, beautiful, smart, and funny person! I aspire to be like you! I have a few questions to ask, if you don't mind!
    -What do you do during your summers? A lot of piano practicing?
    -What do you do as far as extracurricular activities?
    -Do you have any advice to college hopefuls?
    -What hardships have you had to overcome in your life, and how did you deal with them?

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  102. Here's a question: what do you suggest for those of us who don't have tiger mom, or parents for that matter, but...based on the aparent outcome..want a tiger parent?

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  103. ^ wanted to ask the same question!!!

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  104. what is/are your favorite book(s)?

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  105. I'm curious as to what courses you enrolled in at Hopkins and your academic progression there- as a frame of reference for other diligent tigers across the nation who are, maybe a little less like you, feeling a little ambivalent about their own academic choices as they contend for an education at an elite institution.

    P.S. Your Harvard reference was quite witty.

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  106. Sorry some commentators have been disrespectful---love your retort about googling if you're interested in hearing slander.

    I know you love and are good at many different disciplines, but you should seriously consider journalism/writing as a career as you have a remarkable flair for the craft. I loved the excerpt of your essay on "Juliette as a Young Girl." Writing skills and insights beyond your age! Take care and as U2 writes in Achtung Baby ("Acrobat"), "Don't let the bastards grind you down." I'll try to follow the same advice myself.

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  107. Sophia i want to let you know that the only opinon that should truly matter is yours. My parents raised my to value that fact. They filled me with confidence that cannot be broken. Remember you are the tiger!

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